Actually go ahead and unfriend me. Whatever.
“Never Unfriended” by Lisa-Jo Baker is an unusual book. Right from the start, the author Lisa-Jo says that you don’t need to read the whole book! She suggests you read the chapters that relate to you, and then read the last couple chapters that give you tips on how to be a good friend to yourself and others.
Since I was going to write a book review, I read the whole book. Now I love to read books! I love to learn new things! This book, however, I did not like. There were times I cringed at Lisa-Jo’s description of friendships. The friendships she is telling us we need, are too icky-sticky for me!
Some people could find this book helpful. If you are familiar with the Christian Enneagram of 9 Personality Types, but even if not, you will probably recognize these personalities.
Women who would probably enjoy this book –
Peacemakers (9), Enthusiasts (7) who are spontaneous and adventurous, Romantics (4) who are creative and moody with over-sized feelings, and Helpers (2). I suspect that at least some Loyalists would also (6). I am not any of those personality types! By the way, if you are a perfectionist, run from this book! It will probably drive you crazy. I am guessing that Lisa-Jo is a romantic (based on her stories about her life). (See the description above.) I could be wrong. Me, I am an Investigator (5), which is why I love to read and write book reviews!
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Many of the chapters in the book had me thinking, ok been there, done that, all good. I didn’t learn anything from those chapters. I suspect that is because of my age. I think this book is mostly relevant to women in their 30’s and 40’s. I have already been through that stage. It also seems that this book is mostly talking to women with kids under-21. I don’t.
So, if you are similar to any of the personality types listed above, and are the right age, and have kids, or will soon, then you may enjoy this book, and get a lot from it!
So if you are, and you want to read it (remember Lisa-Jo says you don’t have to read the whole book), –>Click HERE!
I did get some good advice from the book, like “give friends the benefit of the doubt”. There certainly are some good tips on friendship in the book.
I don’t think we all enjoy the same types of friends. Some people like doing activities together. Some people like just talking. Others want to talk through all their emotional turmoil. Some people want to party a lot. Lisa-Jo seems to be saying, accept them all and realize you can’t have it your way. She says never unfriend them for any reason! I’d rather have friends that I enjoy spending time with. I like more boundaries than Lisa-Jo. I want time limits, like Bible study 2 hours one evening each week. How about an afternoon at the beach? I don’t want somebody who is texting me in the middle of the night. If it’s an emergency, and I can help, call me! If it’s not an emergency and you just want to stress out, let me sleep.
So my apologies to Lisa-Jo, but your idea of friendship does not work for everybody. I don’t agree that Jesus tells us to have friendships like you describe. I think we are mostly supposed to run to Jesus with our stresses and problems first, not our friends. If our every problem becomes our friend’s problem, you threaten the relationship. Jesus never will leave us, and will never stop loving us. Friends do sometimes. It happens.
->From Romans 8:38-39, “…nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Hey, if you disagree with me about friendship or about the book, leave your comments below. I would love to listen!